Over the last couple of months my guides have been asking me to hone my energy towards being more intentional with my presence in order to expand my capacity to hold more space. They said that this year would be one for “HOLDING” because many will be experiencing massive shifts. Many people ask me what it means to “hold space”. For me, it means being able to stay within my own Sovereignty and frequency and creating a safe, sacred space for others to show up in their authentic self expression without expectation of trying to change or fix them. This is where healing happens. I’ve said many times, “I am not your healer, yet I can guide you back home to yourself for your healing.”
In order to hold this space, I have be able to hold myself and be much more present with myself, my son, my dog, friends and family that has become more of a meditative practice of trying to be fully present with whatever is presenting itself, observing and simply holding space without reacting, just being. However, if anyone has actually tried this, you can testify that it is rather challenging. It requires a significant amount of non-attachment to my own stories and patterns as well as the stories of others.
Just this week while spending time with my bestie, Lynn, in Canada my son gifted me an opportunity to do just this. We were so looking forward to being in the snow, playing with our friends, building an igloo and snowmobiling. So many expectations of how our vacation would look like. Then we got here and realized there’s not as much snow as usual. On day 3, Kian was out on the frozen lake and slipped on some ice and fell pretty hard on his shoulder that resulted in him not being able to fully engage in all the things he so wanted to do. After spending 2 days in a sling and refusing to go outside or play because it was too uncomfortable (understandably so), I went into a tailspin.
“What did we come all this way for, what are we supposed to do now, how can I motivate him to want to go outside and play instead of sit in his room all day alone….all the way to I don’t want to do anything anymore, no more sessions, workshops, much less a retreat…I don’t want to talk to anyone!” (side note, I was on my cycle with lots of emotions moving through me)
I share this because I feel it’s important for people to know that we all go through these days, sometimes weeks or months of feeling this. Despite all the tools and connections I have beyond the beyond, I still have days like this! Thankfully, I have my bestie who just sat and listened to me without trying to give me advice or change my mood. She just held space for me to be and move through what I was experiencing.
By the end of the day, we were all out on the frozen lake building an igloo together! I let go of my expectations of what I thought this week would look like, I allowed my son to experience what he needed without attaching to his pain or stories which freed him to move through what he was going through. We are all doing this together my friends.
So whatever you are experiencing, know that it does not define who we are. It is simply energy in motion or emotions moving through us. If we choose to attach or resist it, we create suffering within ourselves. We have a choice of how we want to experience it by stepping out of our stories to observe and just allow them to be present. Can we hold space for ourselves to feel what we need to feel?